Dinner with friends


I have written previously about the complexities, discomfort and anxiety of social dining.

I described this in ‘working lunches‘ and also eating out in general in Aspergers and Eating out, a Surreal experience


Although the stage design is different, I experience the same feelings when attending small social gatherings at people’s homes, with the exception of close family.

This short clip from the 1974 movie ‘The Phantom of Liberty’ succinctly captures the essence of the absurdity that I usually perceive on these occasions.

I have no idea whether the filmmaker, Luis Buneul, was ‘on the spectrum’ but this is a perfect example of how I experience these events – wishing I could just eat my  food without being constantly distracted, or worse still interrupted, for the purpose of contributing to the mind numbing trivia bouncing around the table.

Buneual won the Foreign language film Oscar 2 years earlier, with another Surreal movie, ‘The Discrete Charm of the Bourgeoisie’


The Dining Scene (The Phantom of Liberty)



1 Comment (+add yours?)

  1. A Quiet Week
    Aug 21, 2013 @ 06:59:28

    Good to hear from you again!

    I have not been for dinner at another person’s house in over six years. My hubby and I prefer take-out. Food is such a delight, social obligations and distractions interfere with the taste!


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